I thought I would do something slightly different with this week's blog and instead of me “talking” I have found two stories to do with anger, negative behaviour and other people being hostile towards us. From these stories you can take different messages; I have put a few questions underneath each one to help you [...]
Anger can often lead us to holding grudges, ill feelings and hate for people. We feel we have been badly done to and it is up to the other person to make the first move to reconciliation…. We end up in stalemate because often the person who moves to reconciliation first has to admit that [...]
It is very difficult living with someone else’s anger because you are often living on egg shells, trying not to upset the person. Never knowing when they are going to react at something you say or do or don’t do. Scared to say anything in case they take it the wrong way and start to [...]
I want to talk about techniques or strategies that might be helpful for overcoming your anger. Before I go into specific things let’s look a few general things first. Sleep This is the one thing we need to make sure we get enough off to help us with our anger. Lack of sleep leads to [...]
Well I am sure you don’t need me to tell you what angry behaviour looks like. I am sure we have all been on the wrong end of someone else’s anger at some time in our lives and I am sure we will all agree that it is not very nice and can be quite [...]
When I was teaching this was always the hardest part for my learners to do. To actually pin down what they were thinking. Our thoughts just come and go and there are so many of them trying to catch them can be really difficult but with time it can be done. Thoughts can make us [...]
You may want to refer back to Part 1 if what I am saying does not make sense because this is a continuation of that. In this blog I want to look at our emotions. Emotions are neither good or bad they just are! We don’t mind people being happy, grieving for a loved one [...]
Having an awareness of ourselves and what we are thinking, feeling and what our body is saying to us can really help us to get a handle on our anger. When I ask people what they are thinking they will say things like, “I am feeling tired” or “I’m fine.” (Whatever that means!) They have [...]
Like all things we learn how to deal with anger when we are children growing up in our families. We see how our parents and others in the family deal with things and we copy them. We do this unconsciously and it is often called “learnt behaviour.” If nobody talks about how they feel then [...]